Love quotes have been universally accepted as a way to express the feeling of love we have for a person. Love quotes are considered as words of wisdom which can inspire anyone.
Love is a wonderful feeling which all mankind experiences. Love is a strong and deep emotion for someone we like. Using famous love quotes have been a popular way of expressing our emotion to someone dear to us. It has been used in love letters, radio greetings and even text messages.
Love quotes can also be an added spice in any romantic relationship. Even the toughest heart will melt with the poetic words of a love quote. Sometimes love will make a person a poet. If you want to write some love quotes for your loved one, you can get some ideas from a lot of famous love quotes. You can surely find a good inspiration for your writing.
Many of the love quotes have been famous because they were able to inspire the emotion of love to a lot of people in the whole world. These famous love quotes can help rekindle or strengthen the feelings. It has inspired people to be a better person, to love fully without conditions.
Famous love quotes mostly consist of words of wisdoms which can serve as a lesson to live on and apply in our real life with our relationship. As we continue to love and learn from these words of wisdom, we then learn to share this to people we love so they can also learn from these love quotes.There are times that we would like to express our love for someone but find it very difficult to express it in our own words. This is sometimes a challenge we face and we turn to formula sayings to help us in telling our deepest emotions. You can probably create a good love letter with the thoughts from these love quotes.
Love quotes are cradles to a couple who live miles away from each other. It gives them hope and promise of staying true to each other. It helps them get through the day, with the thought that they would one day be together again. It inspires them to fight and make the long distance relationship work.
Love quotes are known to bring that smile to a loved one. With the sweet and romantic thoughts of famous love quotes, our dear ones will surely show a smile on their face upon reading these quotes.
Love quotes can also be a strong bond in marriage. The couple can always learn a thing or two from these words of wisdom, helping them adjust, to give and take, for the relationship to grow and prosper.
For broken hearted people, there are love quotes which help to ease the pain. It also helps them think more positive and inspire them to move on with life and assure that they will find someone deserving to be loved.
Love quotes are not only for romance but are also good inspiration. Some of the famous love quotes encourage us to move forward with our lives especially during the times that we are down. They are purposely written to provide positive thoughts and shows that it is not the end of the road when we experience difficult times. These are commonly called inspirational love quotes and are good guide to learn how to cope up with the most difficult moment of our lives.
Love quotes are not only for lovers, they are definitely for everyone. Through love quotes, we can learn a lot of things which we can use to maintain our good relationship with our loved ones as well as to have a good inspiration for challenges we may face in our lives.
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Sunday, August 16, 2009
Giving Yourself Up Can Kill You
Years ago, when on a book tour for our book, "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?", my ex-husband and I had dinner with a couple on the East Coast with whom he had become friends. I connected with Allison (not her real name) immediately. Warm and open, I could see that she was a deeply caring woman. On the other hand, her husband Ken, while overtly charming, had a huge black hole inside that felt like a vacuum cleaner sucking the energy out of everyone. His need for attention was overwhelming to me.
A few months after that dinner, I heard that she had committed suicide. I immediately understood why.
It was evident to me in that dinner that Allison had completely given herself up to Ken, giving him all her attention and constantly trying to fill his empty hole. She had completely abandoned herself in her attempts to take responsibility for his feelings. The result was that, instead of Ken healing, he had become more and more dependent on her over the years, and Allison felt more and more trapped and drained. I don't know why she felt she could not leave rather than kill herself, but apparently she did not see leaving as an option.
I understood because I was in the same situation - with my husband, my parents, and my children. I was the caretaker for everyone, and I was slowly dying from having completely abandoned myself and given myself up to others.
I chose, after 30 years of marriage and many attempts to break the taker-caretaker system, to leave rather than die. I wish Allison had made the same choice.
Today I work with people all over the world, both men and women, who feel so trapped by the neediness and demands of their spouse that they are in deep depression, often wanting to die. They feel guilty if they take care of themselves rather than care-take their partner. They believe they are selfish if they take responsibility for their own feelings and needs instead of giving themselves up for others, and their partners reinforce this by telling them how selfish they are if they attempt to change the caretaking-taking system.
What they don’t realize is that continuing to take responsibility for others' feelings and needs - others who are fully capable of taking care of their own feelings and needs (excluding babies, the ill, and the elderly) - is enabling, rather than loving to others. When we do for others what they can and need to do for themselves, we disable them, causing them to feel even more empty and insecure. While love heals, caretaking does not. Love means supporting ourselves and others in our highest good, which never means giving ourselves up to care-take others who are capable of taking care of themselves.
If you feel trapped and depressed, and you think about dying or you wish your spouse would die, then you are giving yourself up rather than taking responsibility for your own feelings and needs. If the pull on you to care-take those around you is too great for you to find your way through to taking care of yourself, or if your guilt prevents you from taking care of yourself, then the loving action may be to leave until you can break the codependent system between you and your spouse or you and others.
It is your right to have life, liberty and happiness. It is your right to take responsibility for doing what brings you joy, while supporting others in doing what brings them joy. You are not on the planet to fill up another's inner emptiness and trying to do so is not loving to yourself or to them. If you feel trapped, consider beginning to free yourself.
http://www.isnare.com/?aid=392803&ca=Relationships
A few months after that dinner, I heard that she had committed suicide. I immediately understood why.
It was evident to me in that dinner that Allison had completely given herself up to Ken, giving him all her attention and constantly trying to fill his empty hole. She had completely abandoned herself in her attempts to take responsibility for his feelings. The result was that, instead of Ken healing, he had become more and more dependent on her over the years, and Allison felt more and more trapped and drained. I don't know why she felt she could not leave rather than kill herself, but apparently she did not see leaving as an option.
I understood because I was in the same situation - with my husband, my parents, and my children. I was the caretaker for everyone, and I was slowly dying from having completely abandoned myself and given myself up to others.
I chose, after 30 years of marriage and many attempts to break the taker-caretaker system, to leave rather than die. I wish Allison had made the same choice.
Today I work with people all over the world, both men and women, who feel so trapped by the neediness and demands of their spouse that they are in deep depression, often wanting to die. They feel guilty if they take care of themselves rather than care-take their partner. They believe they are selfish if they take responsibility for their own feelings and needs instead of giving themselves up for others, and their partners reinforce this by telling them how selfish they are if they attempt to change the caretaking-taking system.
What they don’t realize is that continuing to take responsibility for others' feelings and needs - others who are fully capable of taking care of their own feelings and needs (excluding babies, the ill, and the elderly) - is enabling, rather than loving to others. When we do for others what they can and need to do for themselves, we disable them, causing them to feel even more empty and insecure. While love heals, caretaking does not. Love means supporting ourselves and others in our highest good, which never means giving ourselves up to care-take others who are capable of taking care of themselves.
If you feel trapped and depressed, and you think about dying or you wish your spouse would die, then you are giving yourself up rather than taking responsibility for your own feelings and needs. If the pull on you to care-take those around you is too great for you to find your way through to taking care of yourself, or if your guilt prevents you from taking care of yourself, then the loving action may be to leave until you can break the codependent system between you and your spouse or you and others.
It is your right to have life, liberty and happiness. It is your right to take responsibility for doing what brings you joy, while supporting others in doing what brings them joy. You are not on the planet to fill up another's inner emptiness and trying to do so is not loving to yourself or to them. If you feel trapped, consider beginning to free yourself.
http://www.isnare.com/?aid=392803&ca=Relationships
Relationships Suffer in a Recession: When Money’s Tight, Can Couples Become Tighter?
Many couples are struggling under the weight of financial woes right now. Some relationships will sink under the pressure but others will weather the economic storm and wind up stronger and better in the long run. How can you make sure your relationship can withstand the stress and strain of the current economy?
1) Find a Silver Lining –
When someone loses a job, it’s tough to find anything positive in the situation. Fear can easily take over and cloud our judgment and color our perceptions and outlook. Financial problems will likely lead to lifestyle changes but they needn’t all be negative ones. Try to view your current situation as a challenge rather than a burden. By doing so, you’ll be better able to see opportunities amid the losses. You may not be able to change your financial situation, but you can change your attitude.
2) You’re On the Same Team –
Money is a notorious relationship-stressor. If you and your partner find you’re arguing more than ever, step back, stop blaming and realize you’re in this together. The recession isn’t your fault nor is it your partner's fault. When you take away the blame, talking about financial issues often becomes easier. This is a good time to work together to come up with creative solutions to your financial problems. In the end, you may find you’ve bonded even closer through your shared efforts at solving this major problem.
3) Rediscover the Beauty of Simplicity –
View this time as an opportunity to get back to basics. How many of us have lost touch with our partner, family and friends because our lives are so busy? With less money to spend on activities, you’ll have more time to reconnect with the people and the things you didn’t have time for before. Instead of going out to eat, pack up a picnic basket and have a date in the park. The simple act of taking a long walk together can be very romantic as can an evening snuggled on the couch watching old movies.
4) Don’t Give Up Dreaming –
When times are tough, many people put their dreams on hold or forget about them completely because they’re either too busy dealing with their immediate problems or they think it’s not the right time to dream. But it’s our dreams that sustain us, especially during difficult times. This is the perfect time to take a look at your dreams and see if you still feel the same way about them. If you do, get creative about making them come true in new ways. You may find your dreams have changed, which is perfectly natural. If that’s the case, find a new dream to pursue. This may be just the time for a change of course, a new plan, and an exciting time of adventure and growth.
We come from a culture of doing and achieving, with less emphasis on slowing down and enjoying the simple things that life offers. The recession gives us an opportunity to go inward, instead of outward, to think about what we’re grateful for and what we appreciate, and just how lucky we are to be alive. Ultimately, everyone wants closeness, companionship, and the opportunity to love and be loved. Interestingly, all of those things are free. That makes this a golden opportunity to cultivate what’s really important.
http://www.isnare.com/?aid=389113&ca=Relationships
1) Find a Silver Lining –
When someone loses a job, it’s tough to find anything positive in the situation. Fear can easily take over and cloud our judgment and color our perceptions and outlook. Financial problems will likely lead to lifestyle changes but they needn’t all be negative ones. Try to view your current situation as a challenge rather than a burden. By doing so, you’ll be better able to see opportunities amid the losses. You may not be able to change your financial situation, but you can change your attitude.
2) You’re On the Same Team –
Money is a notorious relationship-stressor. If you and your partner find you’re arguing more than ever, step back, stop blaming and realize you’re in this together. The recession isn’t your fault nor is it your partner's fault. When you take away the blame, talking about financial issues often becomes easier. This is a good time to work together to come up with creative solutions to your financial problems. In the end, you may find you’ve bonded even closer through your shared efforts at solving this major problem.
3) Rediscover the Beauty of Simplicity –
View this time as an opportunity to get back to basics. How many of us have lost touch with our partner, family and friends because our lives are so busy? With less money to spend on activities, you’ll have more time to reconnect with the people and the things you didn’t have time for before. Instead of going out to eat, pack up a picnic basket and have a date in the park. The simple act of taking a long walk together can be very romantic as can an evening snuggled on the couch watching old movies.
4) Don’t Give Up Dreaming –
When times are tough, many people put their dreams on hold or forget about them completely because they’re either too busy dealing with their immediate problems or they think it’s not the right time to dream. But it’s our dreams that sustain us, especially during difficult times. This is the perfect time to take a look at your dreams and see if you still feel the same way about them. If you do, get creative about making them come true in new ways. You may find your dreams have changed, which is perfectly natural. If that’s the case, find a new dream to pursue. This may be just the time for a change of course, a new plan, and an exciting time of adventure and growth.
We come from a culture of doing and achieving, with less emphasis on slowing down and enjoying the simple things that life offers. The recession gives us an opportunity to go inward, instead of outward, to think about what we’re grateful for and what we appreciate, and just how lucky we are to be alive. Ultimately, everyone wants closeness, companionship, and the opportunity to love and be loved. Interestingly, all of those things are free. That makes this a golden opportunity to cultivate what’s really important.
http://www.isnare.com/?aid=389113&ca=Relationships
Dating Tips - How To Avoid Anxiety During A Phone Conversation
Don't you feel anxious towards a girl even just talking with her on the phone? If not entirely, there could be times when you get into an awkward topic, or that you may feel tensed or pressured in a certain moment. Some girls tend to be really dominant especially in a conversation, and this is just on the phone. That's why some guys would get intimidated by them.
So this time I'm going to give you one of the most simple dating tips that will instantly pump up your phone game...
This technique is called: 'Sit Like A Procurer'
Yeah, you read right, but bear with me for a minute.
Just before you call a lady you may be interested in (or perhaps she's calling you), it is extremely helpful to sit down, and get into a comfortable 'Procurer-like' physical position. If you are not sure what that looks like go watch 'Hustle n' Flow' or turn on BET.
The key to finding your own personal inner Procurer is one thing:
Comfort. Physical comfort is your gauge. If you like to sit in the couch with your legs crossed, then go ahead. I personally like to lean back, stretch my legs out, and take up as much space as I want.
Try to follow this dating advice now if you have a couch, a comfortable chair, or just anything where you can suit yourself. Maybe grab a rocks glass and try it with a drink in your hand if it helps. Practice it until you've got it.
Phase 2: Now call a girl you've been interested in, but make sure you are 'Sittin' like a Procurer.' Stay in position throughout the phone call and notice if and when you begin to reflexively change into a less comfortable position.
What you will probably find in this dating advice is that this new 'Procurer-like' physical position is going to accomplish two things:
A) It will automatically put you into a more dominant and relaxed frame. This will bring your mind into a clearer state which will let you think of some appropriate conversational techniques to use towards her.
B) It will help to relieve any excess anxiety you may be experiencing over calling her.
Remember: It will be a lot easier to avoid experiencing emotional distress when you are physically relaxed.
WARNING: Do not take this too far! The exercise is 'Sit like a Procurer' NOT 'Smack her in the face if she don't got my loot!'
Article Source: http://www.howto365.com
So this time I'm going to give you one of the most simple dating tips that will instantly pump up your phone game...
This technique is called: 'Sit Like A Procurer'
Yeah, you read right, but bear with me for a minute.
Just before you call a lady you may be interested in (or perhaps she's calling you), it is extremely helpful to sit down, and get into a comfortable 'Procurer-like' physical position. If you are not sure what that looks like go watch 'Hustle n' Flow' or turn on BET.
The key to finding your own personal inner Procurer is one thing:
Comfort. Physical comfort is your gauge. If you like to sit in the couch with your legs crossed, then go ahead. I personally like to lean back, stretch my legs out, and take up as much space as I want.
Try to follow this dating advice now if you have a couch, a comfortable chair, or just anything where you can suit yourself. Maybe grab a rocks glass and try it with a drink in your hand if it helps. Practice it until you've got it.
Phase 2: Now call a girl you've been interested in, but make sure you are 'Sittin' like a Procurer.' Stay in position throughout the phone call and notice if and when you begin to reflexively change into a less comfortable position.
What you will probably find in this dating advice is that this new 'Procurer-like' physical position is going to accomplish two things:
A) It will automatically put you into a more dominant and relaxed frame. This will bring your mind into a clearer state which will let you think of some appropriate conversational techniques to use towards her.
B) It will help to relieve any excess anxiety you may be experiencing over calling her.
Remember: It will be a lot easier to avoid experiencing emotional distress when you are physically relaxed.
WARNING: Do not take this too far! The exercise is 'Sit like a Procurer' NOT 'Smack her in the face if she don't got my loot!'
Article Source: http://www.howto365.com
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