If you have no idea who "Schleprock" was, don't feel bad. You kind of have to have been a kid in the '70's to have an idea. You've probably heard of "The Flintstones" though, of course. Fred and Barney live on in syndicated popularity some forty years after first gracing prime time TV back in the '60s (yes...the show originally was targeted at all ages).
Well, a few years later Hanna and Barbera decided to spin-off a kids' show featuring Pebbles and Bamm-Bamm as teenagers. One of the characters in this now relatively obscure cartoon series was named Schleprock. Now to say that bad luck followed Schleprock would be an understatement. Basically a dark cloud LITERALLY followed the guy everywhere. And whenever he showed up, you could be ALL BUT SURE something rotten was about to happen. As far as personality is concerned, picture "Eeyore on steroids" and you aren't too far off.
Decades later, the show has been all but relegated to the vault, but Schleprock himself has become archetypal in a weird sort of way. Maybe you've seen the movie Boiler Room, and remember how Ben Affleck dismissed the first casualty during the classic "group interview" scene by saying, "C'mon, let's go Schleprock...out!"
But I think some of us have gotten to the point where we identify with Schleprock just a little too closely. ESPECIALLY when it comes to women. Believe me, I hear the sob stories detailing "limiting beliefs" all the time.
Guys all over the world believe that they're not good enough to attract a high quality women. And even if they believe they are, for some reason they're under the impression that all these crazy women just don't-and won't-like them back.
Dozens of times over I've heard the mantra, "I guess I just have no luck with women". Well here it is, Schleprock. You do NOT have a "dark cloud" following you around. Not in real life, at least.
Don't get me wrong, I won't begin to doubt that there are TONS of guys out there-possibly even reading this newsletter-who have experienced the Schleprock-like phenomenon of BAD STUFF seeming to happen around them ALL THE TIME. But luck has NOTHING to do with it.
And that's the BEST NEWS possible. Because, you see, that means (as is the case with most issues with women we as guys face) you can DO SOMETHING about it.
Let me just spell it out for you. I believe "The Schleprock Factor" follows a very predictable formula. And here it is:
NEGATIVITY + IRRESPONSIBILITY = SCHLEPROCK
At the risk of underscoring what may be altogether self-evident from that equation itself, let's break it down a bit. When we have a NEGATIVE attitude, we essentially lack confidence, don't we? We see a situation and expect the worst. We see a task before us, and we naturally presume ultimate failure upon it.
And following logically, we project that kind of failure on others also. Call it a "poverty mentality" or whatever, but whether our vision for others to fail is driven either by our discomfort with their success OR by a genuine assumption of negative outcome, it really doesn't matter.
The ramifications are the same: NOBODY IS GOING TO PARTICULARLY ENJOY HANGING OUT WITH US. This goes DOUBLE for MOTOS (Members Of The Opposite Sex). After all, confidence is one of the "Big Four".
And on top being a BUMMER, negativity and failure have this way of being contagious. Ouch. It's no wonder you hear so many self-help "gurus" talking about "ridding one's life of negative people". Right? For sure, simply having a negative attitude may be enough to trigger "The Schleprock Factor".
But wait, there's more. Compounding simple NEGATIVITY in the equation is IRRESPONSIBILITY. You remember IRRESPONSIBILITY. That's the trait that causes younger women to IGNORE guys their own age and FLOCK to older men.
Seriously...it's not the gray hair, man. Irresponsibility involves making bad decisions, including both errors of omission and commission. Being irresponsible, besides being a strong indicator that one lacks wisdom (i.e. life experience), also demonstrates that we lack SELF-RESPECT enough to guard ourselves from BAD consequences. Think about it.
So ultimately, when you mesh a NEGATIVE outlook with BAD decision-making, you essentially blow ATTRACTION out of the picture.
In light of all this, let's go down the "Big Four" checklist and take inventory.
Let's see... No confidence? No attraction.
Masculinity? Assuming the worst and having bad judgment aren't exactly the earmarks of a provider OR a protector, are they?
And when you're decision-making and self-respect are at play, how can you possibly expect to INSPIRE CONFIDENCE in a woman? Is that the kind of leadership she will gladly choose to follow?
Finally, what about character? Well, I don't exactly see Schleprock enshrined in the Great Man Hall Of Fame.
If what I'm talking about sounds like "tough love", I make no apologies. But REMEMBER ALWAYS...the fact that YOU CONTROL "The Schleprock Factor" is GOOD NEWS. And as always, it all comes down to deserving what you want.
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Monday, October 12, 2009
3 Things You Should Never Say If You Want Him to Marry You
Have you found a certain level of comfort with your man and think he's the one? Plenty of women end up messing up their chances of getting their guy to want marriage because they feel totally OK being around their guy but don't realize they should watch what they say.
If you remember anything else, remember that men have huge egos and everything about a relationship has to feel like a WIN to a guy or he'll get out fast. You will have a hard time getting him to commit to you.
Although you might be irritated over certain behaviors or decisions your man make, you'll kill your chances if you start to criticize decisions that are really important to him. You might think you're helping but don't go there with the following:
1. Give him unsolicited advice on his career choice or problems he may be facing at work. If he tells you he's having a bad day, your best bet is to side with him and let him figure it out himself.
2. Give him your opinion on what he should wear because you secretly want him to have a makeover. I used to date someone who dressed completely different from me and thought it was cool but when I got comfortable, I wanted to change the way he looked. You can end up being seen as a fashion cop who does not know when to stop. You'd better just accept your guy's style instead of making his appearance like an inner city project.
3. Criticize his friends/family members. Who cares if you think his buddy is weird, hold your breath or he'll be forced to pick his pack over you. Men always pick their pack over women who criticize them for it. If you want to be apart of his family, learn to not sweat the small stuff because men hate being put in the middle.
Men commit to women who have certain qualities about them that inspire marriage. You might think your man is really into you, but do you know for sure if he's thinking of a deeper commitment?
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If you remember anything else, remember that men have huge egos and everything about a relationship has to feel like a WIN to a guy or he'll get out fast. You will have a hard time getting him to commit to you.
Although you might be irritated over certain behaviors or decisions your man make, you'll kill your chances if you start to criticize decisions that are really important to him. You might think you're helping but don't go there with the following:
1. Give him unsolicited advice on his career choice or problems he may be facing at work. If he tells you he's having a bad day, your best bet is to side with him and let him figure it out himself.
2. Give him your opinion on what he should wear because you secretly want him to have a makeover. I used to date someone who dressed completely different from me and thought it was cool but when I got comfortable, I wanted to change the way he looked. You can end up being seen as a fashion cop who does not know when to stop. You'd better just accept your guy's style instead of making his appearance like an inner city project.
3. Criticize his friends/family members. Who cares if you think his buddy is weird, hold your breath or he'll be forced to pick his pack over you. Men always pick their pack over women who criticize them for it. If you want to be apart of his family, learn to not sweat the small stuff because men hate being put in the middle.
Men commit to women who have certain qualities about them that inspire marriage. You might think your man is really into you, but do you know for sure if he's thinking of a deeper commitment?
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com
100 Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend - Fun Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend
I very often see and hear guys looking for good questions to ask their girlfriend. There may be a lot of reasons, what is yours?
Looking to get to know your valentine date better?
Running out of things to talk to your sweetie about?
First date jitters and don't know what to talk about?
Well, here are first half of 100 questions that can break the ice and get a conversation going. Check them out and then continue to my blog for the other half, agreed?
And, please, remember that the most important thing is to have fun! Although this might seem easy to sit and list all the questions before your girlfriend but she might freak out and run away from you and we wouldn't like that, would we? So make fun of it. Throw a couple of questions and talk about them, discuss the answers, enjoy the conversation.
You might be very much surprised by what you learn about the other person. People are fun and they are so different but also so alike. Finding out your new girlfriend to be like minded with you should turn your date into a celebration at the end. Be prepared!
Don't force anyone to answer a question they don't want to and don't pry deeper if they are not willing to talk about a certain subject. Good manners are a must when asking personal and intimate questions, especially if you are not too acquainted with each other.
1. What was your best job?
2. What were your worst jobs?
3. Tell me all the places you worked
4. Tell me about your best friend
5. Tell me about your family
6. Tell me about your relatives
7. What was your first car?
8. Favorite movie star?
9. Favorite entertainer?
10. Favorite song?
11. What were your life changing moments?
12. First girlfriend/boyfriend?
13. First kiss?
14. What is the dumbest thing you have ever done?
15. Have you ever been arrested?
16. Political affiliation?
17. Have you voted for someone you wished you hadn't?
18. Have you used drugs?
19. Do you like to shop?
20. Best way to relax?
21. Favorite thing to do alone?
22. Ever had a one night stand?
23. Do you save money?
24. What hobbies to you spend money on?
25. If you found a $100 what would you do?
26. Do you want children/more children?
27. Are you a good parent?
28. What makes a good parent?
29. Are you romantic?
30. Ever loose a pet?
31. Dog or cat?
32. Pets growing up?
33. Sleep in the nude?
34. Favorite midnight snack?
35. Do you exercise?
36. Did you ever see your parents making love?
37. Peanut butter and what?
38. What is one food you will never give up?
39. What is a food you can live without?
40. Favorite drink?
41. Perfect day?
42. How many cds do you own?
43. How many dvds to you own?
44. Favorite thing to spend money on?
45. What is the weirdest thing about you?
46. What is on your bedside table?
47. Are you cheap or thrifty?
48. Ever been in love with 2 people at the same time?
49. Grades in high school?
50. Favorite teacher?
51. Relatives in jail?
52. Toppings on pizza?
53. Black or white?
54. Glass half full or half empty?55. Ever been to a food shelf?
56. Ever milked a cow?
57. Ever tipped a cow?
58. Bath or shower?
59. Mountains or the beach?
60. Plane, train or automobile?
61. Favorite all time movie?
62. Worse movie you have ever seen?
63. Best concert you have been to?
64. Beer, wine or coffee?
65. Best vacation?
66. If you could retire tomorrow what would you do?
67. Worse vacation?
68. Three places you would love to visit?
69. Worse boss?
70. If you could do anything what would it be?
71. Super powers you wish you had?
72. Ever had a massage?
73. Ideal romantic dinner?
74. Dumbest purchase you ever made?
75. Where did you find money when you were flat broke?
76. Ever sold blood?
77. What sporting event/concert/entertainment would you buy tickets to regardless of price?
78. Ever hit a jackpot on a slot machine?
79. Ever won the lottery?
80. What would you do with your lottery winnings?
81. Are you a neat freak?
82. Can't stand being around people who_________?
83. Crowds or small groups?
84. How old do you want to live to?
85. Loose your sight or hearing?
86. Ever had a crush on a member of the same sex?
87. Pet peeves?
88. Most annoying habit?
89. Sexiest parts of a member of the opposite sex?
90. Major turn offs?
91. Tattoos?
92. Bodypainting?
93. Piercings?
94. Plastic surgery-would you/have you?
95. Computer geek?
96. Trekee?
97. Play an instrument?
98. Been in a band?
99. Most embarrassing moment?
100. Nude beach yes or no?
Did you like this? I think this is a nice list of fun questions to ask your girlfriend. I hope the list is interesting enough and will keep you going for some time. Enjoy your conversations and have fun!
Find additional questions to ask your girlfriend on my relationship blog.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com
Looking to get to know your valentine date better?
Running out of things to talk to your sweetie about?
First date jitters and don't know what to talk about?
Well, here are first half of 100 questions that can break the ice and get a conversation going. Check them out and then continue to my blog for the other half, agreed?
And, please, remember that the most important thing is to have fun! Although this might seem easy to sit and list all the questions before your girlfriend but she might freak out and run away from you and we wouldn't like that, would we? So make fun of it. Throw a couple of questions and talk about them, discuss the answers, enjoy the conversation.
You might be very much surprised by what you learn about the other person. People are fun and they are so different but also so alike. Finding out your new girlfriend to be like minded with you should turn your date into a celebration at the end. Be prepared!
Don't force anyone to answer a question they don't want to and don't pry deeper if they are not willing to talk about a certain subject. Good manners are a must when asking personal and intimate questions, especially if you are not too acquainted with each other.
1. What was your best job?
2. What were your worst jobs?
3. Tell me all the places you worked
4. Tell me about your best friend
5. Tell me about your family
6. Tell me about your relatives
7. What was your first car?
8. Favorite movie star?
9. Favorite entertainer?
10. Favorite song?
11. What were your life changing moments?
12. First girlfriend/boyfriend?
13. First kiss?
14. What is the dumbest thing you have ever done?
15. Have you ever been arrested?
16. Political affiliation?
17. Have you voted for someone you wished you hadn't?
18. Have you used drugs?
19. Do you like to shop?
20. Best way to relax?
21. Favorite thing to do alone?
22. Ever had a one night stand?
23. Do you save money?
24. What hobbies to you spend money on?
25. If you found a $100 what would you do?
26. Do you want children/more children?
27. Are you a good parent?
28. What makes a good parent?
29. Are you romantic?
30. Ever loose a pet?
31. Dog or cat?
32. Pets growing up?
33. Sleep in the nude?
34. Favorite midnight snack?
35. Do you exercise?
36. Did you ever see your parents making love?
37. Peanut butter and what?
38. What is one food you will never give up?
39. What is a food you can live without?
40. Favorite drink?
41. Perfect day?
42. How many cds do you own?
43. How many dvds to you own?
44. Favorite thing to spend money on?
45. What is the weirdest thing about you?
46. What is on your bedside table?
47. Are you cheap or thrifty?
48. Ever been in love with 2 people at the same time?
49. Grades in high school?
50. Favorite teacher?
51. Relatives in jail?
52. Toppings on pizza?
53. Black or white?
54. Glass half full or half empty?55. Ever been to a food shelf?
56. Ever milked a cow?
57. Ever tipped a cow?
58. Bath or shower?
59. Mountains or the beach?
60. Plane, train or automobile?
61. Favorite all time movie?
62. Worse movie you have ever seen?
63. Best concert you have been to?
64. Beer, wine or coffee?
65. Best vacation?
66. If you could retire tomorrow what would you do?
67. Worse vacation?
68. Three places you would love to visit?
69. Worse boss?
70. If you could do anything what would it be?
71. Super powers you wish you had?
72. Ever had a massage?
73. Ideal romantic dinner?
74. Dumbest purchase you ever made?
75. Where did you find money when you were flat broke?
76. Ever sold blood?
77. What sporting event/concert/entertainment would you buy tickets to regardless of price?
78. Ever hit a jackpot on a slot machine?
79. Ever won the lottery?
80. What would you do with your lottery winnings?
81. Are you a neat freak?
82. Can't stand being around people who_________?
83. Crowds or small groups?
84. How old do you want to live to?
85. Loose your sight or hearing?
86. Ever had a crush on a member of the same sex?
87. Pet peeves?
88. Most annoying habit?
89. Sexiest parts of a member of the opposite sex?
90. Major turn offs?
91. Tattoos?
92. Bodypainting?
93. Piercings?
94. Plastic surgery-would you/have you?
95. Computer geek?
96. Trekee?
97. Play an instrument?
98. Been in a band?
99. Most embarrassing moment?
100. Nude beach yes or no?
Did you like this? I think this is a nice list of fun questions to ask your girlfriend. I hope the list is interesting enough and will keep you going for some time. Enjoy your conversations and have fun!
Find additional questions to ask your girlfriend on my relationship blog.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com
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