Cheating Husbands are Actually Pretty
Easy to Catch
You
can usually spot the signs of his infidelity by paying attention to body
language.
Many
women worry about their husbands cheating, but don't know the signs to look
for. Instead, they blindly trust the bond of marriage to protect them from the
infidelity of their husband. Because of this, many a husband gets away with
cheating, even when his body language clearly indicates he's having an affair.
This article will teach you to listen with your head, instead of your heart, by
showing you 33 signs that indicate your husband is cheating
He avoids being alone
in the room with you.
Many times a cheating
husband has already made up his mind about having an affair, or may already be
involved in one. If he's avoiding being alone with you, it's a sure sign
something's wrong with your relationship, and he knows that something's wrong.
He stops initiating
casual touch with you.
Couples in a healthy
relationship often share little touches, such as a casual bump when passing in
the hallway, or a gentle caress. These brief displays of intimacy may not seem
like much, but if they stop, it's a sure sign that his mind is on something or
someone other than you.
He stops buying you
flowers, or doing other special things for you.
Men learn at a very
early age to do special things for the women they love. Whether it's flowers
for mom, or a box of chocolates for his wife, he knows that these things are
important to a woman. If you notice that he hasn't recently shown you any
special signs of affection, it could be a indication that he's giving that
affection to another woman.
He doesn't look you in
the eye anymore, especially when being intimate.
It's
hard to lie, especially when looking someone in the eye. When it comes to
looking someone we love in the eye, and telling them a lie, it becomes almost
impossible. Because of this, a cheating husband will not usually be able to
look you in the eye when you're being intimate, because he knows it's a lie
The emotional quality
of your relationship has changed.
If your husband starts
caring less about you, or your marriage, and worrying a lot more about himself,
it could be a sign that he's cheating on you. A faithful husband will be
focused on your future together, while a cheating husband will be more worried
about his future, without you.
He starts keeping
secrets, and not telling you little things he used to share.
When your husband
stops sharing little things with you, like stories from the office, or a
challenge he might have overcome, it's a bad sign. Men aren't usually the most
talkative creatures, but they have an instinctive need to show off
accomplishments and successes to their wives. If he stops showing you, he's
either going through a major crisis, or showing another woman.
He's always traveling,
and you're never traveling with him.
Some jobs require travel,
however, they don't require always being alone. Your husband can plan a long
weekend or special occasion with you when he's traveling. The only reason for
him not to at least occasionally do this is because he doesn't want to spend
time with you. If he isn't spending time with you, then who is he spending it
with?
He is working much
more, and spending less time at home.
Much like the man who
travels constantly, the man who is always at work usually has other reasons for
being away so often. Unless he's a lawyer working his way up through the firm,
or a doctor earning degrees and establishing a practice, he either doesn't want
to spend time with you, or he's spending it with someone else. Either way, this
is a sure sign of trouble.
What used to be 'we'
time is becoming 'me' time.
Happy couples like to
spend time together. They take walks, go to the movies, and even play games.
Sometimes, they just sit next to one another, while one reads a book and the
other watches TV. It's about being together, and if your husband doesn't want
to be together anymore, his actions will show you. Time he would have spent in
bed next to you will turn into time alone in another room, which is a sure
indication that something's up.
His sexual appetites
and desires have changed.
Physical intimacy is a
cornerstone of marriage. Women learn how their partner behaves, especially his
'moves' in the bedroom. If your husband starts to shut you out, or worse,
randomly starts breaking out new moves in the bedroom, you'll want to check and
see if he's started reading women's magazines, or is taking lessons from
another woman.
He
deletes text messages from his phone.
Most people don't
delete their text messages, because it usually takes more effort than reading
them. If he starts deleting his text messages, chances are that you have a
cheating husband on your hands, or one preparing to cheat.
He makes and receives
phone calls in private.
This is another big
red flag. Only a man who doesn't want you to hear what he's talking about takes
or makes calls in private. Usually, the only time your husband doesn't want you
to hear what he's talking about is when he's cheating, or talking about you.
He gets a second
number.
Most wives won't even
notice this, but if your husband gets a nice new phone, you might check to see
if it has two SIM cards. If so, what does he need a second number for, and why
hasn't he shared that number with you? This is a sure sign that he's keeping
some pretty serious secrets - one of which is probably an another woman.
He has more than one
personal email address.
Almost everyone old
enough to be married has transitioned through several email accounts,
ultimately deleting most of them in favor of one or two. If your husband is
working full time, and keeping multiple personal email accounts, the only
reason for him to have the stress of managing multiple accounts is to cheat, or
to keep the door open for and old flame to rekindle the fires of desire.
He has more than one
Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter account.
This
is just like the email account problem discussed above. If he's going to the
trouble of keeping many different accounts, it's almost certainly because he's
either already cheating, or planning to cheat in the future
He keeps his Kik, Skype,
Viber, or WhatsApp accounts private.
Instant Messages are
the new email, and because they're more private than regular SMS and Text
messages, it's fairly easy for your husband to cheat on you without your
knowledge. While you shouldn't expect to read his messages or spy on his phone
any more than he should expect you to read them and give a summary of the
important ones, there's nothing wrong with glancing at his screen from time to
time. If he's hiding it, chances are he's hiding more than just a message.
His body or clothes
smell differently than they used to.
Too many women
overlook this basic element of their husbands. Every man has his own smell.
It's a combination of what he eats, where he sleeps, the soaps and colognes he
uses, and the woman he sleeps with. If the smell of his body changes, it's time
to see if he's been having curry for lunch, or an affair with another woman for
dessert.
He doesn't participate
in group gatherings of family and friends.
However much we like
or dislike our relatives, spending time with them is part of being married. So
is spending time with friends. If your husband stops spending time with friends
and family, especially in group settings, it's a sure sign that something's
wrong. Maybe he's planning to leave, or maybe he is cheating on you and doesn't
want his other woman to see you together.
He is spending a
significant amount of time with someone else.
This one is pretty
obvious, but many women overlook it in the interests of being 'modern'. Just as
it's OK for a married woman to have male friends, it's also OK for her husband
to have female friends. The thing that's not OK is when he's taking your time
and spending it with her. If you notice that he's doing this, it could be a
sign that your husband is cheating. Reel him in before its too late.
He spends a lot of
time helping someone else, or gives gifts to them.
This one is tough,
because some men are genuinely sweet, and naturally giving. They will help out
anyone. Unfortunately, some women are not so sweet, and may abuse your
husband's trust, or worse, turn it into an affair. Likewise, he might also be
spending more time with another woman because he prefers her company to yours.
Either way, it's a recipe for infidelity, and best nipped in the bud.
He stretches short
trips out of the house into long trips.
Have his 30 minute
walks in the park or short trips to the store turned into hours long
excursions? There can be a number of reasons for this, but they all usually
involve him preferring to spend his time elsewhere. In the case of a store,
maybe there's a cute young cashier or other relatively unattached girl he's
chatting with at the coffee shop, or maybe his dog walks include the
understanding company of an otherwise unoccupied college girl. Whatever his
reasons, none of them are good, and all point to a cheating husband.
He starts arguments
out of nothing, and then leaves the house.
This one seems so
obvious, yet many women miss it due to being so distraught over an argument
they can't understand. This is because it hits them from out of nowhere, and
then they sit home wondering what they did wrong to make their husbands leave.
This I sad, because a husband who starts a fight over nothing and then leaves
the house is either looking for an excuse to leave the house, or not expressing
his true frustrations. Both are signs of deeper problems, often involving
infidelity.
He is extremely angry
and frustrated, seemingly without cause.
Men can be angry over
life events and circumstances. It's also quite normal for him to be frustrated
with things that are beyond his control, such as economic hardships, accidents,
or work difficulties. What's not normal is for your husband to be angry and
frustrated over nothing. If this is the case, the 'nothing' might just be a
woman you aren't aware of, that he's been cheating with, but unable to express
his guilt over.
He is defensive about
everything, almost as if he is anticipating conflict.
Few people like
conflict, especially in the home. Your husband is no different, so if he's
defensive about everything, and always prepared for conflict, you need to dig a
little deeper. A man behaving like this is often doing so because he knows
something's wrong. He knows something's wrong, because he's having an affair.
You stop seeing or
hearing from his family as much as you used to.
Momma's don't betray
their babies, and many men tend to live by the bro code, where they stick
together no matter what. If you're seeing signs that he might be telling his
mother or family about an impending separation, or you've noticed that his
friends aren't so friendly towards you anymore, it's a problem. In fact, this
problem almost always involves another woman, and is a serious sign of trouble.
He begins dressing
differently.
Men don't often change
their styles. If he likes jeans and a polo shirt, that's likely going to be his
style forever. So, if you notice that he's traded in his jeans for a pair of
dockers, or his usually conservative polo shirt for a printed t-shirt with a
rock band logo on it, you might have a cheating husband on your hands. Men only
change the way they dress when it serves a purpose, which in this case is
pleasing another woman.
He starts caring more
about how he looks.
Grooming and hygiene
patterns change. If your man used to be OK with slightly messed up hair, or
half of a shave, and he's now carefully grooming himself, it's obviously not to
impress you. In fact, one of the most obvious signs your husband is cheating on
you is when he starts improving his personal hygiene and grooming habits. Don't
ignore this, as it's an indication of a husband looking to please or impress
another woman.
His overall appearance
has changed.
This
one is harder to spot, but it bears mention because it's usually a sign of
problems that lead to an affair, rather than the actual affair. Sometimes, when
your husband isn't happy, he'll start making little changes, and the shift from
outgoing to conservative, or conservative to outgoing, is one of them. If you
see this, talk to him, before he gets tangled up in an affair that could
destroy your marriage
His tastes in music
change.
Not
that many wives notice this one, because many times their husbands can have
some strange tastes in music. However, if your classic rock loving husband
starts listening to Tecno, there's a reason. Sometimes it is just be because he
likes it, but more often, it's because the woman he's cheating on you with
likes that style of music. He either wants to make her happy, or is pleasantly
reminded of her while jamming out to the latest step.
He starts visiting art
exhibits or enjoying trips to museums.
This one might seem a
little funny at first, until you learn about the young art student your husband
has taken an interest in, or the history major who has enchanted him with
welcoming smiles and tales of ancient Rome. If he starts finding interest in things
he previously had no interest in, it's a sure sign that another woman has his
interest. Take note, and steer him away from infidelity.
He starts attending
office parties and social events he used to avoid.
Everyone
knows the jokes about office parties, and let's be honest, they're usually
pretty true. So, when your husband suddenly starts attending them, it probably
has something to do with the new girl in the office. If you aren't invited, it
almost certainly has something to do with her. This is a sure sign of trouble
in your relationship
level of attention he
gives you drastically changes.
If your normally
passionless man suddenly becomes a charming powerhouse of passion, enjoy it,
but pay very close attention to him. Likewise, if your man of endless passion
suddenly turns cold, take that as a warning sign too. He's likely either giddy
with joy in another woman's arms, or he's gone cold because she's taking all
that heat and keeping it for herself.
He suddenly develops
an interest in a new language.
This isn't usually
something that younger wives need to worry about. It's more often reserved for
those who have been married a few years. In these instances, a cheating husband
might discuss a desire to visit France, for example. This naturally leads to
French lessons, which his wife mistakes as being an indication of a planned
trip to another country. She never sees the affair his 'language' lessons are
hiding. While new languages are great, be careful your husband isn't more than
just new words in his mouth.
