Relationship Advice - What Can Marriage-Minded Singles Learn From Elin Woods?

The world of golf continues to reverberate from the very public fall from grace of golf's hero.

Finding the right person in a sea of un-sorted singles is a full time and often exhausting job. It was not too long ago that people married within their own communities. It was therefore easy to know who the village idiot was, or who was what. Today, singles move across the world with ease to marry someone they do not really know but with whom they have an instant attraction.

Elin Woods got it wrong. She made the following 8 critical mistakes with her choice of husband:

Mistake 1: Allowing herself to be chosen. It is critical that YOU do the choosing, and not the other way round, irrespective of your partner's celebrity or financial status.

Mistake 2: She did not clearly define who she is, her must haves, her negotiables and her non-negotiables.

Mistake 3: "Love thinks" according to John Van Epp. Love is not blind - it is clear eyed. Ignoring glaring red flags at the dating stage sets the footprints for the rest of the relationship.

Mistake 4: That her love will change him. It is unclear whether Elin knew who she married, or whether she saw the red flags and proceeded with the marriage in spite of what she saw and knew.

Mistake 5: Little or no pre-marital counseling or education. This is a must for every couple and cannot be overlooked or ignored. A pre-nuptial is no substitute for pre-marriage education or counseling.

Mistake 6: Lack of much needed communication skills to see you through the inevitable ups and downs of marriage.

Mistake 7: Unclear about her own motivation for marriage.

Mistake 8: Unclear about her husband's marriage readiness.

What are the things we tell ourselves when we date a person who we know is not a match for us? Factors such as loneliness, impatience and financial worries force singles into unmatched relationships. The importance of educating yourself cannot be understated. Learn from past mistakes and from others, so that mistakes are not repeated when choosing the person who is right for you.

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